Tuesday, February 24, 2009

liar liar.
pants on fire.
How to Detect Lies

Become a Lie Detector

Introduction to Detecting Lies:

The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.

Warning: Sometimes Ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.

Signs of Deception:

Body Language of Lies:

• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.
• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.
• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.
Emotional Gestures & Contradiction
• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.
• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.
• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.”
• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.

Interactions and Reactions

• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.
• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.
• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.
Verbal Context and Content
• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”
•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”

• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.
• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.
• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In otherwords, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.

Other signs of a lie:
• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.
• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.
Final Notes:
Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal) behavior whenever possible.
or,you can just google up his name and let the pieces fit.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

17th February 2009
It's 1 in the morning and I just got back from GMN with Pika. Abg Nasir and Leya's birthday celebration. It was fun, Abg Nan made Nasi Minyak. After quite a while,baru dpat makan. Haha. Got creamed, as usual. Pak Joe siap kunci pintu tanak bagi sesiapa kluar. Then the usual, telur, cream, cake, snow spray. Luckily kene cream and spray je. No eggs. :) We excused ourselves agak awal la gak sbb was getting sleepy and Pika nak study.

And all of sudden, teringat kat Erra. I do wonder how is she coping up with studies and chores. Hope she manages well and fits in. And hope she's having fun there. I promise you sis, when I get back, I'll drive all the five hours drive on weekends to see you. To tell you the truth, I did get worried when you told me you wanted to go all the way north to Kubang Pasu. I was freaking worried. You can ask my friends. They even told you that. I know. It's not that I don't trust you, but it's just that I love you too much and maybe I still think of you as my little sister who needs me to guide you all the way through. I forgot that you have grown up, and matured beyond your years.

I admit that over the years, I have had my share of ups and downs. You've seen me doing a lot of things, some which I regret, even today. And some I want you, Afiz and Azif to achieve as well, or better than what I have achieved. Afiz, if you are reading this, I know how high you can soar. You can achieve better than me. And that IS what I want you to do. Do better than me. I had my share of fun, and somehow I think it went out of control and without knowing, I was off track. I know you have a strong willpower, stronger than mine. Stay focus and achieve what I didn't manage to achieve. Never doubt yourself, not even for a second, because I have no doubts at all that Afiz, Erra and Azif will do well in your lifes, insyaALLAH.

Do know that though at times, I might not be the best sister for the three of you. I might not be the greatest role model for you. And I might not be the one to tell you guys what to do. But do know, and always remember, that whatever it is, I will always have your backs. All three of you. And though sometimes, I may not tell you guys this, I love you. All of you. Equally. With all my heart. My prayers will always be with you. May ALLAH guide you through every step, along the way. And if you need a shoulder to cry on, or a hand to hold or simply to just look back while you're running, I'll be there. Always.

Hugs and kisses from faraway,
Kaklong. <3

Monday, February 16, 2009

this song has been playing in my mind for quite some time now.
i don't even know why.


All i ever wanted was to love you
Girl I never meant to cause you pain
And I only have myself to blame
Now you're gone and I can't stop thinking of you
Every time I hear your name
I think of what I've done again and again
See I'm all alone tonight with just a memory
And baby you're a million miles away
I can't take another day
If I ain't got you
I ain't got anything
It just dont feel the same
If I ain't got you
I ain't got anything
Can't even feel the pain
If I ain't got you
I remember when we were together
I remember how you used to say
There's nothing I could do to turn you away
I know, I know that things have changed forever
If I look into your eyes
All I see now is tears
If I could, I would pick up teh pieces of ur broken heart
And put it back together
A nd I would, I would hold you in my arms till the burning stops
And stay right here forever.

Monday, February 9, 2009

so i've been tagged by my dearest housemate,naz and i have to write 25 random things about myself.haha.what a way to kill time. :)

1. Whenever I get sad, I want an ice cream. Basically because back home, I usually eat ice cream with my family. Like ramai2. So, it reminds me of those happy times. So, whenever i'm sad,or feeling down, I want an ice-cream to cheer me up.

2. I deleted what i wrote because Pika thinks that the boyfriend is not to be blamed, except for what he did in the first place and blames the girlfriend instead, But Yuya and I think, They are both to be blamed. One for being such a pain in the you-know-where and second for listening to whatever the girlfriend has to say. Bak kate Pika, "Pak Turut". And the girlfriend for lying and thinking that we are these puppets she can toy around with.

3. I cant consume food with much dairy product anymore. I used to like ruz bilaban, particularly this old uncle's, who sells it by pushing a cart past our block. But once, I ate it and ended up puking. So now, I can't have it anymore.

4. I share a room with my little sister back home, and at times, felt like kicking her out. *sorry,erra. :) * But now, there's nobody in this world I'd rather share my room with, besides her.

5. I don't like doing laundries. Eversince i remembered.

6. When I like something, I stick to it. Like if we're gonna eat at Secret Recipe, I'll order Viatnamese Noodle and if we're having Baskin, i'll choose Mint Chocolate Chip.

7. It's hard for me to trust people nowadays and when I trust someone, I really2 trust him/her.

8. I sleep with the lights on and having someone else close. It makes me feel safe.

9. Since I was born on Christmas, I have this theory. I always tell my family what I want. People tell others what they want for Christmas, so I guess it's okay.

10. I am a bad driver. I hate having to park the car. I nearly crashed more than twice, and I did hit a petrol pump. SERIOUSLY. Naseb baek only the garbage can got hit. DLow was shouting, and the Bangla's came running to see if the garbage can was okay. sighs.

11. I like baking. And my adek-adek LOVES Chocolate Chip Cookies and before I left, I thought Erra how to bake it.

12. I enjoy going out. It's not that I don't like staying at home, but I like being outside. Anywhere. Even if it's just walking to the bakery or 7 E.

13. When I was 8, I nearly drowned myself in a pool because my cousin brother left me in the adults pool and to save myself, i grabbed hold of someone's bikini and i didnt know what happened next but i do remember she was really shocked and when she saw me gasping for her, i think her boyfriend pulled me out then i cried and my cousin came over and bought me ice cream.

14. For my 14th birthday, I insisted on Chocolate Marshmallow cake and it turned out, it was not cake, it was chocolate mousse and nobody wanted to eat it, so I had to finish the whole cake by myself and it took me two weeks.

15. Whenever I have a physical fight with my sister, she tends to kick me and hard. And it hurts, and i try very hard not to cry, and pull her hair instead. Then, I'll sit and think back and regret and kiss her when she's asleep.

16. It's only number 16 and i have been sitting here for nearly an hour.

17. My siblings and i enjoy reading and we like buying books, instead of borrowing them. So we spend quite a lot on books, and it's cool that our parents are cool with it.

18. My family and I enjoy eating bulgogi, dim sum and seafood. They're delicious.

19. I tend to look at people's hands. I think a lot can be told just by the hands.

20. I really like the song and the dance routine. Call me jiwang or anything, but this song means a lot to me.

21. I've never been so close to my mom, but nowadays I just miss her and my dad so much, so I basically tell my mom everything. But not my dad, segan lah. But I always text him, from time to time.

22. I've always looked up at my dad, still is and will always do.

23. I'm helpless when it comes to gadget. Laptop, desktop, iPod, you name it.

24. I like coconut meat, not then water. When I had chickenpox, I had to drink coconut water, but I flushed it down the toilet. Mommy, Ayah, if you're reading this, sorry. I did try and drink it. 2 3 sips each time, but I didn't like it. :(

25. One of the best books I've read is The Tenth Circle by Jodi Picoult.

Friday, February 6, 2009

today it was my turn to cook.
so i made porridge *penuh dengan kaseh sayang taoh* and ate dinner.
god,we miss izzah.terribly.cepat la balek wahai kakak kami.
so it turned out that erra got accepted into MRSM Kubang Pasu and I feel kinda bad for her,knowing how much she wanted TKC.
so at first,she was very reluctant.VERY.ayah texted me n pika,naz and i immediately googled it.den i talked erra into going,even though i myself am being hesitant.i know she's 13 and she needs to grow up, toughen up,be more matured and learn to be more control of her life,but she is still my little sister.she always will be.and apparently,mommy worries about it as much as i do.n the fact that that place is 5 hours drive from my house,doesnt make us feel better.so i told erra all the pros and cons,and apparently after much thinking,she decided to go for it.
i have no idea how life will treat her there,but she will always be in my prayer.and i know mommy feels sad,and lonely,as we are all not at home,except for pudding. and he will either be playing the ds,ps,surf the net or watch tv shows.n yeah,i miss having ding close to me.and the fact that erra will be at boarding school,it means she won't have her cell,she cant im me and i cant talk to her as frequent.n m suddenly missing home badly.and that one biatch isnt helping brighten my mood either.n what faisal told me in the cab boggled my mind.a bit.but it still boggled me.i told mommy wats happening around me lately,n she says that we should just hang in here,cos one day, the truth will prevail.

Monday, February 2, 2009

so i have only one paper left,the dreaded biochemistry.
we had a two day gap after anatomy.
and i wanted to score biochem badly.
but on monday,i started feeling sick.
when i burp,it tasted like puke *seriously*,my stomach growled like mad,my head pounded and i had to go to the toilet a lot of times.
i've had this before and it ain't nice.
the last time i had it,kak nadia gave me some pills to ease it.
before that,i had i when i first came to egypt n i had to stay in bed for 3 days.
so,while we were halfway through the movie "wanted",we decided to go the hospital and it was half past midnight.
pika,naz,faisal,rosal and i.
since yuya was already sleeping and i didnt want to wake her up.
we went to SALAB and the doctor said i had colloids.
and hypotension.
and i am now lactose intolerant.
so i had to stay at the hospital till 4 in the morning for a bag of iv and an injection.
the next day,while they were all out,i stayed at home with yuya.
while we were studying,we heard the amu who sells the best ruz billaban *milk and rice,its an egyptian dish i guess* we've ever tasted.
so,being me n yuya,we ran for our purse and basically ran all the way down from the fifth floor in our pyjamas.
we bought four and had two each.
after i finished my share,i started feeling dizzy and started puking.
great,we forgot bout the milk part.